No I don't want that M anymore, Steve is right that M is done. Is there another R with W that would look and feel more like the original pre-kid one? Or better? Not unless we both change. Will my changes have an effect on W? If I believe in It Takes One to Tango, than maybe. That's kind of where I'm at. I get it though - I change for me and let's see what happens later with her.
As for my GAL, we have the 2 kids so I am ramping up my independent time with them - projects and games at the house and park and activities outside the house. One of the frustrating things is that they are still pretty young and really into the W and seem to prefer time with her, which hurts but its always been that way. I'm doing what I can to get that 1x1 time though.
Outside of kid stuff, I am ramping up my nights out with friends, from a few nights a month in the past to weekly now - usually after the kids are down. Local music, hanging over a friend's house for a few beers, etc. Planning on some bigger things as we go forward - concerts, weekend away with some friends, etc. It's just a little tougher because of the kids, so a good portion of GAL will involve them. I'm trying to schedule some events - dinners, hikes, camping - with some dads of the kids friends - kind of a daddy-kids thing, no mommies. Also i'm back in the gym lifting weights (used to be a huge gym rat) and getting a new mountain bike and joining a few dads I met through the kids on some trails. Again, I want to GAL but balance it with kids time, I know you get it.
Steve said BUSY BUSY BUSY and I really buy into that. When I was a single guy I was BUSY times 100 and every girl I dated was more drawn to me for it. It was always just a matter of giving them just enough of my time and not a second more, unless things were really getting more serious. Even then, I was BUSY times 10 instead of 100. Quality of interaction over Quantity. So true.
