As far as I'm concerned, FS, no such thing as a thread hijack. I am way more comfortable with this thread being a water cooler around which anyone can share their stories. I agree with what you and Kiro posted. Specifically:
1 - Accept accountability. This is the biggest reminder from my own therapy: no matter what baggage I bring, or W brings to our transactions, I ALWAYS have accountability. I can ALWAYS choose to respond with maturity and love. I accept responsibility for not always having done this in the past.
2 - Wholeness unto one's self. No one completes us; if we're not ready to find happiness within, it's tempting to find blame without.
3 - Love with grace. Marriage is about bestowing unconditional love to the undeserving. Forgive, accept, move on. Repeat.
I spent the entire morning talking to a friend who needed advice. My advice to her: don't marry with the expectation that he will change; if you are not willing to marry him as he is, perhaps you are not ready to marry.
