You have received some very good advice and I must say you sound and seem very grounded and level headed, well done!
DnJ
I wish I could say that I am grounded and level headed at all times but that would be a lie. I work full-time and immediately pick up my kids after work and I am with them until their bedtime. I think that forces me to remain calm. Being hysterical at work or around my children is just not an option. Nights are the hardest for me- when I am no longer distracted by all the things I have to do. This is how I know that I still have a long way to go toward being truly detached. My head is still spinning with emotions. But outwardly I try to carry on as normal until I get to the point of detachment. I also try and remain calm and pleasant at all times when my husband is around me (though these times are rare). I constantly remind myself that I need to remain a kind and dignified person to the best of my ability. Anything less is not personally acceptable.
Tomorrow is officially 2 months post BD. It feels more like 8 lifetimes.
