TF, sorry to hear about the PA or "almost PA" you discovered, but it's not really surprising. Most WAS's consider themselves divorced at BD and free to do whatever they want when it comes to pursuing others. I think it's probably upsetting you because you were still clinging to the notion that maybe somewhere down deep she still loves you and wants to be with you and that this is all just a bad dream that'll wash away with the morning light. But the reality is she is 100% done and pursuing her fantasy "perfect" life without you. It hurts but now you know and can live your life accordingly. Again I'll just remind you that this is how she feels right now, at this one particular moment in time. That doesn't mean she won't have a change of heart later, chances are she will. But it's going to be way down the road.
As far as her pushing you to sign the decree, I suspect there's something else going on, like maybe OM won't be physical with her until it's signed out of some messed up sense of perceived nobility. Contributing to breaking up a marriage is what it is though, he's certainly no knight in shining armor.
Sounds like you are handling things well as far as trying to detach as much as you can, so well done. Keep it up! I think you'll come out of this a lot better/ stronger/ happier than she will.
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