Whirlwind of Hurt 6

[Twofeet]

Hey Sandi,

I step into the entryway to exchange. Hug and kiss my kids and that's it. W does the same when dropping them off at my house.


On another note. W dropped off the kids yesterday morning because she wanted work and I have the week off, so I took advantage of extra time with my children. She wanted to sign the decree yesterday and wanted to know about the CPA. I told her he would call me and I let her know. Later I followed up with a text that I heard from him and everything looked ok. She went down and signed. Later she blew up my phone with texts and calls. She wanted to bump D8 into the next level of her rec activity and wanted to run it by me. I was busy with the kids so I hadn't had a chance to check the text, but eventually I answered one of her calls when I had time. It wasn't an emergency, but they had one slot open so she was pushing to get D8 in asap. She also wanted to sign D8 up for other activities. I asked if she was wanted my opinion. She said yes so I said let's stick to 1 activity at a time. I wanted to get D5 signed up for something as well and we don't need to further complicate our lives. She seemed receptive to what I said.

She started idle chit chat so I took the cue and said the kids and I are busy gotta run. She then stopped me from hanging up to pressure me into going down to sign the decree. I said I planned on next week when the kids are in school. I said I was not about to take the kids with me to the lawyer/mediators to sign the decree. She offered to exchange the kids Friday earlier so I could do it. I said no D8 has an appointment and we have plans (I am not about to cut time short with my kids because W wants to pressure me to sign the certificate of death on our M). I asked what is the rush the judge is going to sit on it for 2 or 3 weeks before they sign off on it anyway. Me signing few days later doesn't seem that significant. She didn't have an answer, and said she didn't want to pressure me (despite doing just that). After this I told her truthfully I did need to go.

All day she was texting me and emailing me about various child or finance related things. I responded in kind on my own time. Then late last night came what I guess was the temp check. She was asking about a recipe/bake kit/brand I use for a bread. Since it's not child/family/finance related never responded. Maybe she will get the hint or maybe I will have to tell her like LH said, we aren't not friends so unless it's the co-parent topics of children/family/finances do not contact me, I need to heal and move forward.

When that time comes I have a couple different responses in my head and I will post them here before I use one. I feel like it will be hard. It's like the LBS version of the BD.