Milestones of Moving On (?)

[SoTorn]

I am in that same boat where I get confused on whether to just flow with the nice. My WW gets very comfortable and will start acting like nothing is wrong, like everything is just ok besides the fact that she is still having an A, has zero remorse and wants a D.

WW starts the temp checks, "you never talk to me", "You say you dont want me" "you never help me" "you keep ignoring me".

Those are just temp checks. You need to do LRT. I am doing LRT I guess, without me filing for D I guess its not really LRT. Early on in my sitch I would get drawn in by the temp checks even though I knew what they were and she would pull back hard, to the point of full rejection to any of my pursuit. Therefore, I have learned that the only thing that is working for me now is minimal to no contact.

My WW was just with me in the kitchen right now. I was making a protein shake and she went to make some tea. WW was standing right next to me and as I was washing my mixer I could see her staring at me. WW literally just standing next to me about a foot away staring at me while I am not looking at her.

As soon as I was done she looked away and kept doing what she was doing. I said absolutely nothing to her. I did say hi to her when she came in because as you would with any other person on the planet, you would greet them when you see them.

WS are strange as it gets. WW will get up and say "good morning" to me when she sees me in the morning. I don't know if that is just habit or what. Ever since I told her yesterday that I was not her friend, after she went full out temp check complaining that I wasnt helping her, she has been quiet and staying upstairs again.

I find it best to just keep it at no contact if at all possible. If they want to talk about the kids, sure we can respond, if they want to talk about logistics and finances, sure we will respond, but why put ourselves through trying to communicate with someone who is actively betraying us?

I am not for applying one of the five love languages while I am not a couple with my WW.