A former WW/AP story. (True Story)

[Manta]

The whole concept of an affair is pure carelessness, teenage wanna-feel-like, SELFISH by all means and destructive PURE NONSENSE. I understand that as humans we have feelings and wants and SOME are automatically attracted to whoever is available to provide what they feel they “need” to live.

Wake up call for you all AP's, WW's WH's and BS……

WE DON’T need anyone to make us feel complete….that is something you have to understand. All the suffering that is going around is all based on the belief that you NEED another person to feel whole…. why is that?

In other words, you have litteraly placed you future in the hands of another person who is as or more confused then yourself to dictate your level of happiness.

I can’t think of another reason then this being the most pathetic cycle a person allows themselves to get tangled in.

STOP…..

BS… if your spouse says he/she “loves” the AP and can’t let them go…..do yourself a favor… don’t bother trying to convince your spouse or the world as to why the cheater should stay with you….. let your spouse go to their AP…. let the AP deal with his tamtrums once the high of the affair wears off. This is what i have done.

See, reality will kick in and guess what?…. yep! ….. realife situations will now creep in their illicit “relationnship”.

BS, stand back, heal on your own (like real women and men with self respect do instead of leaching on to whoever is weak enough to get manipulated) and while you are embarked your journey to wholeness and healing…. you will discover a secret that none of the two “love birds” have no clue about, which is, the gift of knowing that happiness, love, respect, admiration, pure honesty starts within and anpartner is just someone you wnat to share that with not a person who you “NEED”.

You will learn that any type attachment that only serves to satisfy your insecurities are toxic and you will run from such. This is what the AP and the WP are doing…. they are addicted to someone they percieve is the cure for their deepest insecurities. They are too weak to self reflect and find themselves… they prefer to run and hide from their pain and USE the A as that cover up. This is what my WW has done.

Its a matter of time for all it to explode… but, while they were wasting their time playing hide and seek in a house made of quicksand, you, the BS have already built a building of self love, emotional maturity and boundries that your spouse will have a whole life time to pass through.

The WS will be let with three options:

1) stay with affair partner and forever stay stagnant/imprisoned within their inability to face themselves. The affair partner will live all their lives trying to bendsidways to please the WS, because they know deep down that if they fail, the WS will stray.

They need to prove to the whole world things were meant to be even if that means to fake it to the end.

2) leave the affair and face the consequences of all the pain and devestation of the illicit relationship..choose to work on the marriage. (Hardest option but best long term happiness)

3) or leave affair and divorce and do deep digging and self reflextion and mature or jump on the neck pity wagon (another temp relationship to cover the pain)

Whatever the outcome… one thing is for sure. A persons conscious is a powerful thing…. and no matter how deep one wants to bury a wrong doing…. it will fester and explode when you least expect it.

Doing whats right is not usually what feels right… but, that is aomething only an unselfish and emotionally mature person would understand. It is of no use to explain this to someone who is in denial.