Hi Job , One Art, Marina ,Gordie Gerda and Kate Thanks for your responses
I think you all hit it from every possible angle for me and I appreciate your feedback
I think I am letting this go- I do believe she is under the influence of something and I sense she was needing to apologize for her part and at the same time grasp for answers to try to fix her mess, which I obviously cant do and would not want to I feel so far away from this chaos and my life is really good without them-
and yes for the new person it does show what the MLCer's new fantasy life becomes down the road- and the kind of person their affair partner really is-
I will energetically send her forgiveness and good wishes hoping that both she and XH find their way to Healing God and peace
xoxo
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow