I know I chewed your ass on page 1. I am going to encourage you to read other folks' threads and offer advice from your (OM) perspective. It may be very helpful.
You may also find answers as to why the OM is often a downgrade. And it's usually bc he connected with her emotionally in a time when she felt emotionally neglected. Your W also has formed a pattern in her behavior as well.
As for getting pissed about paying rent, well this forum has written a book about why you shouldn't pay unnecessary voluntary benefits, why you shouldn't move out, etc.
Are you guys divorced? I'm having trouble connecting the dots here based off of these statements:
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I got this from many sources and confronted her about it she once again said "none of your business"
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she told me it was none of my business that we weren't together anymore.
I'm from the old school. When you vow forever in front of God, church, family and friends, it means forever. If you think can just clap your hands and say "we're not together anymore", why would you ever get married? Why not make that a declaration at your wedding? Why not say "if you don't take care of me I will secure plan B and cheat on you"? And if you don't have the guts to say that upfront, that makes you a cheater on the back end.
You're being hard on your self and soft on her.
Last edited by ovrrnbw; 01/02/1905:48 PM.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
