Pretty quiet New Years Eve and Day. Her adult son stayed with us for a few days...so that has kept her occupied and I've been a bit out of her space...and her a bit out of mine.
Yesterday morning I said I wanted to un-Christmas this house. She objected, saying she wants to have a day to do nothing. I don't know if this is a trait of WW's...but she has been very unmotivated to take care of anything (including herself) lately?? Things around the house, even her kids...just not doing as normal. Anyway, I told her she didn't need to help but I was going to get it done on my day off. So I enlisted the help of her kids and packed up everything and got it all done. She walked into the living room while I was packing stuff up...and said "I don't like your vibe". LOL. I was cleaning, playing music even had a cocktail. Terrible vibe for sure!
She spent the day downstairs with her son watching movies. I stayed upstairs. I cleaned, did some work outside, read and watched some tv on my own. There was a plan to make dinner...but suddenly they ordered pizza mid afternoon. So, I made myself dinner. Later, after I had already gone to MBR for the night...she came up and said "So I guess this means your not making dinner?" I said I ate after pizza showed up...so not tonight.
This morning when I get to work...I notice her keys in my vehicle. I texted her that her keys were with me. She replied "how am I going to get to work?!!" I didn't reply. Then about an hour later...she said her son would drive her and asked me to bring keys home at lunch. I replied with "I'm not coming home for lunch today...you'll have to stop by my office and grab them". Normally I would have gone out of my way to get her keys to her. I'm not being a jerk...I'm just not saving her anymore. I don't need to act like her husband when she is the WW.
I haven't set the MBR boundary yet...although she hasn't slept in our bed for the past few night anyway. I plan to set that boundary and move her stuff out of MBR tonight or tomorrow, depending on work schedule. My plan is to be as brief as possible when telling her. Something as such... "when this all started a few months ago, you asked for time and space. I have given you that. Since then, you have made no meaningful effort to end your A...and shown no indication that you are interested in working on our marriage...even though I have made it clear that I am willing to do so. So, now it's me that needs time and space. I can no longer share a bed with you since you continue to see/contact OM. I will move your things out of the room and bathroom and I ask you to respect my space going forward."
Thoughts on this plan/statement?? Too much talking? Other advice?
