Hi Ellie - I guess this is the end of late night postings I could relate to a couple of your comments
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The old me wouldn't have said anything and would have been more and more anxious and he would have been late and I would have been in a crummy mood as he was leaving. This way I was able to simply state that his behavior was making me uncomfortable, and he knew in his heart that I was right.

Yup - this is something I'm slowly learning to do, in a non-confrontational manner. It is tough though, changing ingrained habits - but seeing them for what they are I guess the first step
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It's funny, really, because I always thought of my H as the more organized one by far, but as I get better organized myself, I see more of his disorganized habits.

Yes, I can see this too. I can also see how I used to quietly tidy things up behind NG, and it was just taken for granted. Now that I'm no longer picking things up, NG seems to have less time to sit and ponder on life...

I enjoy your posts in the many threads you visit, Ellie. Thanks for your insights. Slowly

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