Around here there's TONS of talk about how women like men who know their worth. I say it works both ways.
Yeah, this dialogue is a common one here. I agree wholeheartedly with Burned here - it goes both ways. Also, men like men who know their worth and women like women who know their worth. Just wanted to stop by and queer it up a bit.
I do think that it is a sign of mental health when individuals fall in love with other strong (know their worth) individuals. I know I'm like 20,000 steps ahead, but you will be certain to attract a strong individual in your future.
Originally Posted by burned
Mistake: "Sorry I shat on your rug, I won't do it again and here's 20 bucks. We cool? Let's get a beer."
This is not related to the discussion but Burned you forgot to mention the part where the offender CLEANED IT UP!!! I'm laughing so hard right now.
Back to real talk....
Originally Posted by TJT
and a good day has turned pretty terrible.
No. Because up until now you were having a good day. Your day was mostly good. Then it wasn't. I don't want you waking up tomorrow and thinking that this entire day was a waste, or negative, or backsliding. It wasn't. It was ONE moment of your day. But up until now it was a good day. Remember that.
Originally Posted by TJT
and this process is just gonna be drawn out for like the next few years of my life, at least.
You're making assumptions based on how you feel in this moment. You have no idea what the next few years will look like and I don't want this to become a self-fulfilling prophecy. It will be hard, but you are not doomed to wallow is sadness forever.
I know a lot of people say "it won't be like this forever" and it sounds trite. But there are a lot of people here who have lived it. Don't be so hard on yourself for feeling sad, but also don't assume it will stay the same in the future. Grief is a moving target.
If you have a moment that is funny or happy to you - embrace it. Don't feel guilty over being happy for a moment. I felt that way early on - like how dare I laugh with a coworker when my life was falling apart. It turned out to be the best way for me to remember I'm not dead. We have to have courage to move on and hold our heads high, and taking every moment as it comes is really important in feeling brave.
To summarize: You can feel sad. But don't trick yourself into thinking that's all you can feel.
