Milestones of Moving On (?)

[TJT]

Very curious to hear more about this. If I were to use a popular search engine to find it, what would I type? Or can you summarize?

I randomly discovered it as a recommended article while I was reading something else. It was from a site called bolde.com, titled "Guys, you may not realize it now, but here's why you'll live to regret letting an amazing woman go"

The loyalty thing is covered in a few of the points but #1 hits it pretty squarely on the head.

Doesn't help though when you feel like a total failure like I do right now. And you know what I think my problem is? I live simultaneously in the world of "I'm awesome but I'm also a failure". In other words, I'm awesome but that's not good enough.

I've always felt that way in my life, if I'm honest. Like I've got what it takes but for one reason or another I'm ALWAYS two steps behind. I think that's also why I have the hardest time letting go, because just when I think I do have something I have to somehow deal with the fact that NOPE, I don't.

I also just read something about coming to terms with the impermanence of everything in life so that you can go into relationships in a healthy way without getting too attached. I get it in principle, particularly as it comes to preparing for losing loved ones to death, but again as far as relationships go I feel this is BS that they tell you just so you don't go crazy. It should be possible for me to find one person out of these billions of people who will be in a committed and happy relationship with me until I die and it takes more than just "love yourself first" to make that happen!!

Also, yes elements of things change but general stability is possible. It's why we have a calendar, why we have mornings and nights, why we have work weeks and weekends. Structure and stability and commitment IS A THING.

Sorry, I'm definitely spiraling right now. These initial posts getting this out have helped a little but I'm gonna go take a stress bath now. Man I just want this to be over SO BAD. I don't want to cry anymore or feel like a POS because some actual POS left me.