Dealing with a WW and trying to save myself pt. 4

[SoTorn]

So we are stuck at home due to the weather.

WW has been giving me a hard time all day about not helping her. WW got stuck getting in the driveway. I was getting my boots on to go help. But she came in demanding help. She didnt ask, she demanded. "You need to push my car!"

After we got her car inside she again made a comment about how nobody is helping her.

I told WW that she doesnt want me as her H and that she needs to stop getting mad when expectations she hasn't even voiced are not met. I told WW that as long as she is actively disrespecting me and headed down this path, I am unavailable to her. But if she asks nicely I would consider helping if she needs.

WW then demanded that I refinance the house and buy her out or leave. I advised her that I choose to do neither. So she again threatened L. I told her that her threats will not make me do what she wants.

I wasnt arguing or raising my voice and yes I probably said too much but I was not validating her bullsh*t. WW again demanded i move out. I said no. I told her that she is welcome to leave and that everyone would be fine if she left. This is actually the truth. Our kids have expressed that they want WW to be the one that leaves.

Also, WW is going to end up paying me. I'm sure I could offer to not have her pay if she gives up the equity in the home.

WW starts messaging me after she goes upstairs. Says I was being hateful. I told her I'm sorry if she feels that way.

WW says "you honestly think we are staying M?"

I responded again with "I told you before that I do not want a D, however if that is what will make you happy I will not stop you."

WW responded with "you saying that stuff to me shows the kids you dont give a sh*t". I responded saying "I'm confident our children know I care".