It seems like you are dealing with so much at the moment. Just reading your recent exchange with your H about the car makes my head spin. IMHO, it seems your H is whining constantly about the choices he has made and is trying to make it your problem. He doesn't want you to be in his life but he still expects you to be sympathetic to the fact that he has no money and needs the car to get to work. I am sorry if I have not understood correctly but is he studying so can't get a full-time job? Well if so then that is his problem. As far as I can see, he needs you more than you need him. How much is he supporting you financially? I get the impression very little so his argument about not being able to have a job if he doesn't have use of the car is of no benefit to you at all especially if you are paying all of the running costs and getting nothing from him in return financially.
These are his choices and as DNJ says he is bullying you because he knows you would rather save your marriage than get a D. I also think you are waaay to polite to him in your exchanges and the communicating by email is just giving him free reign to write his ridiculous responses to you! Maybe change your way of communicating, not bring rude but as the others said, direct and to the point. Also maybe suggest that email/letter responses are not going to be read by you in future. Unless you are happy to get them, but if it was me I would dread receiving them!
I really hope things start looking up for you in 2019 Gerda on both the business and in you R. (((Gerda))).
Me - 47 H - 45 D-16 M - 6 years Separated - May 16
Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')
