Please Read and help what I'm about to type is the nail in the coffin. I will say that a lot of you were right and I was wrong. I have paid my karma for being the OM. I now know what my wife's 1st husband felt. So like I said, my wife, went to California for Xmas. This past Saturday while she was in Cali a picture came up in a work group chat(the restaurant she works at I used to) of her and another man. This is where it gets complicated. It wasn't just any other man, it was an 18 year old that used to be a hostess there. I never met him but he's still in HS. I was in pure shock. I could have never in a million year imagined she was cheating on me with someone 9 years younger than her. I left the apartment back in October and just doing the math of when things started to get really bad. I think she's been sleeping with him since September or August.
She took this kid with her to Cali to meet her family. He's still a senior in high school. I have a college degree and just started my career. I just don't get it. After I confronted her about her she told me it was none of my business that we weren't together anymore. She is right about that but I told her she's been sleeping with her before I had left and she knew that was the truth.
She got back into town yesterday and I obviously have no plans of contacting her. But I don't get it and if someone could help me at all trying to make any sense(although I've already been told don't try to find the logic in an illogical situation)
She turns 27 this month, he just turned 18. She has a son and he sells weeds and was arrested earlier this year for possession and she bailed him out(I got this from many sources and confronted her about it she once again said "none of your business") I always just did figure it would have been someone who could offer her and her son something I couldn't. I thought it would have been an older man with their life together. If anyone could help me in finding some logic in this please do.
But most importantly what are good sources that I can read or videos I can watch about forgiving and moving on.
I DO NOT WANT A RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS PERSON. I'm over her but I can't escape the thoughts of being cheated on with a little kid. I can't escape the thought of me paying the bills and rent these past few months while she had a man in the house. I can't escape the thought of some punk being around her stepson and her not seeing how this horrible.
I need resources and help. I spoke to my DB coach yesterday and he told me I had to forgive and move on. We didn't have that much time to talk after I explained the situation so if you guys could please help me by providing help in that department.
