LBS dealing with WW (part 6)

[Joe2017]

Thanks Jim. I have adjusted my attitude and tried to see how much XW is trying now. It's actually night and day compared to what we had in our MR. She is much more thoughtful, she is always asking me for my opinion, and she makes extra effort to look nice for no reason other than I'm around. So, she really acts like she's very interested in dating me, and that is nice. Time will tell if this will last, but I am in no hurry. I just need to keep giving her credit for what she does to rebuild our R.

Journal:
We did a little NYE thing together and it went well. We had a short talk about our MR and the A, in which she said she values marriage. I made a clear line in the sand and told her that she didn't value ours, so how can she say that? She says she made a mistake and she will never stop making it up to me for the rest of her life. Hmm. OK, validated it and moved on. I'm not sure... Seemed like a foggy thing to say, like cake eating. Hard to reconcile those statements. Got to give that more thought, maybe.

She really does seem genuine, though. No matter how steadfast I am in denying her any sympathy for her behavior during A she has continued to take responsibility. I wonder if she still "loves" OM. Which would not bother me if it were just an old boyfriend. I still love my ex-GF, things just didn't work out with us. The difference is my ex was not an OW. Maybe that's just semantics.

Piecing is harder than I thought it would be. One day at a time...