Dealing with a WW and trying to save myself pt. 4

[SoTorn]

My state is 50 50 period. Also, I would just be paying down debt that we would be splitting if I didn't. But yes I'll ask a L.

I was actually ignoring WW all night. I dont really let her comments bother me anymore. Old me would have been sucked into an argument with her comments. I used to aggressively defend myself when she said dumb stuff. That helped nothing.

There are pros and cons of me staying and moving. OM is married and lives in another state. WW already travels constantly to see him. His job requires he lives in his state.

Yes it still bothers me obviously. The cake eating bothers me a lot. I have talked with several Ls. There is no harm in me moving out. I have good reason.

I have said my boundaries multiple times. WW doesnt care unfortunately. So all I can do is not get drawn in. I wasnt trying to punish her. I honestly figured she could handle putting a tree away.

I would have helped if she asked. I was just reading and wasnt even paying attention to her.

If I move it will be because I no longer want to R with WW. That would be a self preservation move.

Maybe Sandi can give me some feedback on whether or not I should be available and offering help.

I have always offered. But that's some history she rewrote where I "never" did anything. According to her she built our successful life alone.

If I stay its because I'm still hoping WW will come around. I dont know if that's what I want honestly.