I agree with not looking for another R. Yes its nice to meet friends. Everyone needs to have a strong social circle. The women that have been contacting me all reached out to me. I set a boundary with all of them which is "I am currently NOT looking for a romantic relationship but I would be happy to be FRIENDS".

All of them have accepted that. I did have a couple of women that reached out to me and despite me setting that boundary they started pursuing me extremely hard. I mean yes its nice to know that I am desirable, but they were pursuing to the point where they seemed needy. It was like they were desperately trying to find a companion or life partner and I was the first stable man they ran into so they started relentless pursuit. I cut them off and blocked them.

I literally had one woman ask me, after I set my boundary, "So are you ready to give your heart to another and find your soulmate?". I said no and she kept pursuing just like that so I cut contact.

I have also been getting in touch with old friends that I lost contact with due to some reason. I have a very good friend that went to the Army for several years. He recently moved back so I am going to start hanging with him.

M:16
T:21
H(me) 38
WW: 38
S11 D16 D19
Red Flags of A: March 2018
ILYBNILWY: August 4, 2018
Moved out of MBR: September 24, 2018
BD/Confirmation of A: October 31, 2018
D Filed: March 27, 2019