Milestones of Moving On (?)

[burned]

I fear that many of them won’t ever “come out of it” because they don’t see themselves as being IN anything. Typical person with NPD has such low self esteem that they have to blame anything that goes wrong in their life on OTHERS. To blame themselves would be too hard. In my case, many of the older and wiser people who know W and me think that she has ALWAYS been that way and will never change. Bad news for Burned. Because that also means that when they’re dragged across the jagged surface, they’ll blame you for dropping them on the surface, they’ll blame OM for dragging them across it, and they’ll curse the gods for having made the surface jagged. Oh well, she says, time to keep searching for “the one” who won’t let me drop myself onto a jagged surface. When all along it was Burned who wanted so much to protect her from that. But he was controlling and needy. Sigh...

(Sorry for the hijack, TJT, but hopefully some of that resonates regarding you and H?)