Sure, the WS isn’t floridly psychotic, but they are somewhat out of touch with your version of reality. And I don’t consider WS syndrome to be a severe mental illness, but the metaphor might be useful.
Thanks for the clarification there. I don’t think the WS is a psychotic. I do believe that it is somehow related to a form of narcissistic personality disorder. I am in no way a psychologist or therapist, but basically all of the same traits exist between the two.
It takes a lot to knock them off of their high horse, if it is even possible. YOU are NEVER going to be able to do it. Only LIFE can do this to them. It will take them hitting rock bottom and getting dragged across the jagged surface bloody and naked before they will even have a chance of turning inwards to perform some REAL introspection. And HOPEFULLY they will see how jacked up they are, and they will seek help. The only way they can turn it around is if THEY want to.
This is why the lighthouse is so important if your goal is to have them back in your life one day. Because if they realize that you have always truly been there for them, then there is the chance that they will ask you to be part of their recovery when they are ready to change. Standing up a lighthouse for them is 100% faith-based. There are absolutely no guarantees that it will ever change anything, but you do it out of love. It may end up being unrequited, or it may take a year, two years, ten years, or more. By then you might not even want them in your life anymore. But for me, it was my final act of love in tribute to our marriage.
Save yourself. Nobody is coming! BD:11/2017 Filed:12/2017 Final: 2/2018
