LBS dealing with WW (part 6)

[Joe2017]

Joejoe,

Thanks for taking the time to write that up. I remember reading your thread and praying for the same opportunity with my XW. Now that I have it, I realize that I really am a different person now after DBing. I also realize that I got over the D and I got over my XW. I just never got over the pain and resentment. I really just bottled it up because it didn’t matter anymore. But now that it DOES matter, I find that the resentment is there still. For instance, we were talking about the past (dangerous, I know) the other day and I told her that it really just makes me mad that she screwed OM in our bed in OUR house. She didn’t have anything to say, she just apologized over and over and cried. She said it was terrible and she will never stop trying to make it up to me. Not a good way to spend our time together.

So thank you for the tips. I know we need to get in to see a MC. I know that will be very important for us. I feel like if she truly is remorseful then we have a chance to build a really good relationship. I just don’t know if I am on fully on board... I have my guard up so high and I don’t know if I can let it down.

Also, our kids are both very very cautious about this too. They have both voiced concerns to us about how XW hurt everyone, and neither of them really trust her. It’s a tough spot to be in for her, and I don’t know what I can do to make things better because it isn’t easy for me to be supportive of her when I feel like she could go screw any dude out there at any given moment. I also have the gut feeling that she still loves OM, like she gave him the ILYBINILWY treatment like she did to me. I don’t have any evidence of this, I just get the feeling.

Ugh. I don’t know if this is worth it.