Finding the Balance then Tipping the Scale (TWO)

[joejoe1]

Adam,

I understand what you are doing. I should give more info. Do you have indicators in place to help judge when/if your W coming out of her FOG. Do you have indicators to help you know if your WW is coming back towards your side of the road. You need indicators to help you decide what choices you should make next. All the examples I presented to you were your W approaching you to start talks. But if your W is coming to you opening up, should you push away in those moments, I think it would be unwise. Her opening can be an indicator of her feeling safe with her feelings around you. A really good sign/indicator

Think about this, if your W is opening up to you about her feelings, that means she most likely has subsided her emotional opening up to her AP. It's hard for people to be completely vurnable with two peoole at once. If she starts to give her emotions to you again that's a good sign. I wrote down five, "if my W does" comments. If she does one then maybe she is temp testing, but if she does 3 or 4 or all five, then she is most likely coming out the fog and seeing reality and has sincerity about what she is doing and saying. My phone coach, Chuck gave me that as an assignment. It really helped guide, especially when my W started to do those things, and when she did then multiple times I had to change course, to start and think about piecing.

Onward and forward