joejoe, what will the list help with since I'm still giving emotional and physical space and not initiating talks?
BTW, forgot yesterday, W said "I still love you, but I am angry and resentful" The first time in 4 months she said she still loved me. I know not to believe them and one of the reasons I did not get emotional was that I kept thinking about her lying to me. I played it cool though and listened. One day I will have my time to speak.
ovrrnbw, I'm doing well on the gal,180, weight loss. Felt like plateauing this month, close to 70 pounds so far but I noticed I need to double up on the cardio to feel any burn.
GAL I am going out solo more. I enjoy quiet time to myself reading or watching videos. Went out today to visit family. last week was a friend. spending time with the kids playing sports or taking them out. starting to hit different restaurants by myself.
180s, a lot of it is mental, like being quiet during validation instead of being mr fixer. I had a whole list and paragraphs of stuff going back to my childhood. I have let a lot of resentment and anger go. I misplaced a lot of that and put it on my W and my mother. The way I saw love and how W and I were responsible for each others happiness was distorted. I cant say some of the 180s are working yet until I put them into practice. Much of it is self awareness and knowing better I will do better. I'm responsible for my own actions. independent. Not dependent on W. Working on my physical appearance. Emotionally, I am not pursuing W. I am giving us space and time. Mentally, I am doing a lot of self reflecting and using this time to learn and pick up on techniques and tools to help along the way. I see myself in info gathering stage.
H 49 , W 47 T 23, M 17 S11, S5 BD: 7/18 IHS: 7/18 - 3/19 Physically Separated: 3/19-4/19 Piecing: 4/19 - Current
