T, I pulled this from ST's thread but will put this here in yours:
Originally Posted by TJT
Originally Posted by SoTorn
I dont believe my WW is strong enough to try and heal our MR. WW has never been one to own up to her mistakes. I dont see her changing that at all.
I am so glad you have this clarity, Torn. I kind of feel this way about my H but I can't truly bring myself to accept it.
Everyone takes their time to fully accept the situation. It took me 10 months to fully grasp the weight of WW's A. I'm still finding out more details with adds to the pain, but also is helping me paint a clearer picture of who I am dealing with.
Originally Posted by TJT
Originally Posted by SoTorn
Another woman told me that she has been looking for a man my age for awhile and that every si gle man she has met my age that is not married is not emotionally mature or financially stable. This woman said that I am so far ahead in maturity than most men my age because of the life I chose.
She also said most men live with their parents or with roommates and are desperately trying to hold onto their youth.
And this is why I am terrified of not having my H back...seems everything is relative and if my H was at least willing to come back to our M, however hard it may be, I feel like it'd be better than being a single woman experiencing what these women are telling you about! I've heard this type of thing more than once and no matter what people say, or how young or how pretty or how XYZ I am, I feel screwed.
I also sympathize with you on this from the male end. I have not been hit on since this whole thing started, so I really do not know if most women our age think like the women ST encountered. You're not screwed at all. You're 30 and just starting to get into the prime years of your life ( I hear it continues into the 40s). There are many many many men who would love to get to know you. You have the tools to be AWOAFWL (A woman only a fool would leave).
And you may not feel it now, but down the road you'll look back and ask why would anyone want to get with THAT (your H)? I still am infatuated with my previous image of who my WW was. She looks like the woman I loved, but that's about it. She is a totally different person. A cheating, manipulative, lying, gaslighting, hypocritical, awful person. I'll read your sitch soon but I just want to put it into your mind that the two of you have changed. You for the better, H for the...worse.
