Looking forward to your new name Pain!!! I think Sandy is bang on and I love her advice to start imagining your new life as a happier one instead of just new. We are all on this painful journey of self-exploration we didn’t choose to go on but maybe we needed to. This has been the most painful three months of my life without a doubt but I am slowly but surely moving forward to what I think will be a better, stronger version of myself. I have realized that my identity and self-image has been too wrapped up in being my H’s wife and that I have spent the last few years waiting for him to “return” to live my life. I have wasted a lot of time doing that and, in a way, I feel like the grief I am going through is also wasting time. But, I know that it is not because I have to go through it to get to the other side. And you do too. You will get there Pain. You ARE getting there. (((Pain)))
