These things happen for a reason. Your reason is personal growth. Going through this and learning about attraction and real human behavior and all the other tools will make you a much more attractive male. You will also be much more aware of the red flags and hopefully attract a more healthy female into your life. If that female is your W with remorse, then you will have some crazy decisions to make.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712