Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 13, D busted

[PsySara]

Hi friends! Just thought I'd give an update which is just to say, things are humming along. We are kind of becoming complacent and I see WH sliding back into some of his old ways. He is working too much and it's putting a strain on our interactions. My love language is Quality Time and when he works all but 4 days a month it definitely puts a damper on us. I sat down with him and had a frank discussion that while I was happy to fill my time with other activities, it wasn't helping our connection if he was absent more than present. He decided to clean up his calendar for January and to make time for us. We still argue but I have followed through on my DB and simply disengage and make sure to address any serious concerns when there isn't an emotional charge. I once read to never argue when HALT (hungry, angry, late, tired) and it's been a life saver.

I am enjoying my new job immensely, I work 7 days on and 7 days off, effectively getting paid more money to work half a year. This means I can GAL as well as make sure I do self care. My kids have definitely enjoyed a calmer and more engaged mother and I find myself enjoying their company more. This year I am focusing on working on my physical health, working aggressively on debt reduction and also to put more towards my spiritual life. As many know I am Muslim and I have kind of back shelved my obligations. I haven't prayed consistently (we pray 5 times a day) and I definitely haven't been consistent with the kid's lessons. The new "semester" begins this January so I'll be signing the kids up for Sunday school again and getting that squared away.

Since this Summer I will be have every other week off I am perusing some ideas for family vacations. I really want to introduce camping to the kids as I have a lot of wonderful childhood memories about that. (not family but I was a country kid who went camping with friends) I also will be putting the kids in day summer camp so their swim lessons can continue. I am excited about this year. WH can continue to heal our marriage and build memories post Bomb drop.