My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance PART 5

[Gordie]

Over

So I think your Christmas talk was an ultimatum

Have you had ultimatums before

The MWD advice is only give the ultimatum if you can go through with it

Agree with Blue and Joe that your job here is to drop the rope

And let her do the work of doing the right things

Because she wants to do them

Not because you are demanding them and keeping score

As you know I was DBing for two years before my ultimatum last Christmas

And then I gave her time and space to do the work

Drop the OM

Drop the legal proceedings

Transparency into her online and IRL whereabouts

Re engaging with children

Re engaging with me

All of this has taken much more patience than expected

Things can improve but very slowly

And not on your timeline

She has to do the work

So keep working on you

And pray for patience

I love Blu because of her candor on the difficulty of piecing

I think I expected quick and dramatic improvement

But it has not been like that for me

That is why they say set expectations at zero