Question: My w has been saying that my attitude stinks lately. She says at times I'm borderline rude and pushing her away. Do you think that means that she has noticed a shift...or that I need to work on being nicer to her while following the rules?? I don't think I've been rude or had a bad attitude at all...I've just been a lot less talkative and more direct with short answers. She has also used the term "Mr. Independent" to describe me lately.
You'll laugh your butt off as you gain more experience and look back at this. WW's are pros when it comes to projection. She is projecting her feelings on to you. Then she hits you with a temp-check. She wants to make sure you still want her. You didn't take the bait, good job. I failed that test so many times, and was happy to see you stayed ho-hum on it. Then she dug deeper and asked again and started name calling. She is goading you into admitting you want her or to start an argument with the name calling. Fuggedaboutit....
LH is so right man you don't even know. You either stand up for yourself now or sit down and buckle up for a wild, crappy ride. I took the NGS, weak route because the immediate pain scared me. Trust me, this woman is watching you like a lion watches a gazelle. Sounds primitive, but I've always said that people are animals too. We just like to pretend that we're somehow better or more sophisticated.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
