And like your situation there was a lack of commitment to reconcile
It has been a long multi year marathon
DB coach said to give it time and to be patient
To focus on getting to know each other again
Being friends
Dating
Touching non sexually
This escalated from not wanting to be in the same room
To proximity
To touching like a friend
To hugs
To pecks on the cheek
To holding hands
And then this past week
To open mouthed kisses and sex
I told her back in January that I did not believe in a sexless marriage
But that there was no need to rush things until we were both ready
So she knew what I believed
And then I waited
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving