Girl, you ARE your own safety net! You don’t need a man for that, especially an irresponsible inconsistent selfish one. There is no safety in that, only danger!
I’ve told you, my walked out the door the night he dropped the bomb, and our baby was 6 months old. Scary stuff! I Was an ICU nurse, something I loved, but shift work wasn’t cutting it, so I took jobs that I hated or were wrong for me in my field to make it work for me and my daughter. I went through some heck but camenout atronger eachtime. I furthered my education, I furthered my career, I bought my own hour a few months ago. 11 years later my daughter and I are doing great!
My ex has been married to his OW for sometime . We all just went to the movies and dinner together. I help my daughter buy presents for her stepmother never in a million years did I see that coming! My life is full. I am dating a magnificent guy.
Was any of this fair to my daughter? No. It broke my heart at first this was her life but I think her life would have been much worse if me and her father were still together as he is.
You can’t make your ex someone he isn’t. I think he’s shown his true colors, and that wonderful man was putting on an act. Now he is showing who he really is.
You and your daughter will be ok. And good for you setting boundaries with him. BecUse him coming in and out of your home saying crazy stuff to your D will be what is detrimental to her.
Once you let go, you will look back and see this as almost a blessing. I can just about guarentee you that
