What a beautiful post Marina. I am so happy for you and your sweet kids and your new addition to the family. Have a wonderful New Years. Can’t wait to see what good things 2019 has in store for you. (((HUGS)))
I am so happy to read your update. It sounds like you guys had an amazing Christmas!! And a German Shepard? Awesome!! Those are great dogs!
I don't post much to you as there are so many that offer such great advice, but I do follow along with your situation and I want you to know that you have a lot more supporters here than you know! I am so happy to hear how well you sound. Keep it up...you've got this thing!!
Happy New Year to you! Wishing a fantastic 2019 for you and the trios!!
You sound amazing, Marina. The dog, what a gift. I got teary thinking of the Marine making the choice to give the dog to you, seeing what a loving angel you are. XO
I believe I will see the bounty of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord with courage. Be stouthearted, and wait for the Lord.
Well today was drop off. At drop off W and OW pulled up.
Yelp a new car, W gets out and I got out because Trios all got medicine They all have strep throat so I explained to W
W then explained OW got her a New car because Old car transmission went out. I simply said ok I Will call finance this week because old car was under my name W proceed to said yes by June 10th it will show paid off.
I again nodded and said ok.
W proceed to say OW paying for it. I again said OK. W ask are we ok I said of course W.
Again W try to explain about why W needed a new car I simply said Ok W is cold gotta go.
I just laugh at it once I was in car. Am at all How this is so MLC move
If I go down the list wow W literally fits in with MLC
ILYBNILWY OW Started losing weight Gym New look New clothes Monster come out W moved 2x since BD W says over 3x marrying OW W gets New car
Bahahaha that's all I can do is laugh.
I am just waiting what's next. New baby... seriously will W get pregnant
I see all this as W wanting a reaction and W sees Am just like OK...
How do we LBS try to reconcile with MLCERS When they literally redo their life
Smh... I am ok am over the childishness
I can't with W. While I struggle financially still Making sure kids are clothed and eat W still doesn't Give me a gallon of milk or eggs nothing... a real Parent regardless will make sure they always have.
Am I mad yes because no matter what our kids are hurting I seen d10 face. Is like d wanted to scream but d just kiss Me with S9 amd s10 and said we see ya Sunday, yes Doggy Was with me. I said ok babies...
At BD Lesbian marriage Me39,W36 S9,D9,S8 adopted all three Together almost 10yrs Bomb Drop - April 2017 W movedout - May,2017 OW June,2017 Currently 2018 Me40, W38 S10,D10,S9
I am so happy that you and your children had a beautiful Christmas. What a surprise! A new pup to add to the family and he/she will provide many years of companionship, love and fun for your entire family.
Your attitude is amazing and you've got this! You are doing great for what you have had thrown at you. Keep up the good work!
Wishing you a Happy New Year and may the new year bring you some peace and comfort.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
marina - I told you long ago, well seems like long ago, that you captured my attention.
Dear girl, you have been, and are, a remarkable person, a remarkable woman. You have shown such strength and keep stand tall in the face of all this adversity. Well done!
You see W’s actions for what they are, and you now respond instead of react. You are well detached, letting go, and following your beliefs. As indifference grows watch your feelings, new ones will spring up to fill the void. You are not trying to stop them, just realize and acknowledge them, they are true and real, until they disappear - fleeting. Lean on detachment and your beliefs to get you through this reorganization of thought and heart.
Originally Posted by marina7
How do we LBS try to reconcile with MLCERS When they literally redo their life
You don’t try.
You focus on you and kids, build your own life with out her, like she is never coming back. You detach, let go, accept, forgive - all the while love and hope are alive.
It is more do or do not.
If W awakens and starts to return from her new life, and she and you, both choose to walk paths towards reconciliation and rebuilding, you do that, you walk that path.
If W remains in new life or partly in new life, and she dumps OW, you can see if this new person interests you. That would be leaning a lot more to the building a new relationship with this new person vs reconciliation.
Those are a ways off, and there are a lot more possibilities than two.
Right now everything you are doing is for you (and kids). Know who you are, know your core, and follow that. The future is unknown and will be revealed soon enough. W still needs time and space to work through her issues. Be patient - this is going to take some time.
I love the addition to your family. The trios must have been thrilled. How old is the pup? Who named him?
You have so got this.
Remarkable.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
Thank you everyone, yes this dog was a Surprise for all of us.
A friend of a friend knows how I love dog,
Not sure if you remember in the beginning of my Story.
After BD I had a big surgery SPS installed W was going keep Trios for 2 weeks and Trios Just got a dog of Christmas 2016 a small teacup dog
Well BD was April 2017 Surgery was August 2017
But I still didn't know how bad MLCers can get W came to hospital drop kids off saying I can't do this Walk out. Yelp after me being in 13hrs of spine surgery. W also had our dog tea cup W stated took him To shelter Best friend at the time was out of state best friend drove Back, help me with kids. Then BF and husband contact W wanting to know where was our teacup dog.
Best friend went to over 5 different shelters and doggie Day care looking for him. No luck
Now this was another heartbreak for Us. W leaves us W takes all the money W takes dog away, we never see him again.
I still remember the look on Trios eyes the screams Of a child, of losing there dog.
Before this happened I had a pomeranian for 13yrs My dog was with me before adopting trios, in 2014 Our beloved pomeranian died of age. But kids where There until she took her last breath.
That was painful, we still have her ashes my pomeranian was like my daughter. This was like losing a child after She pass. But in 2016 we got the new tea cup but then W MLC started so till this day I am not sure where he at
So having this German shepherd in our life came right on time.
Apollo is his name the
meaning "to destroy". In Greek mythology Apollo was the son of Zeus and Leto and the twin of Artemis. He was the god of prophecy, medicine, music, art, law, beauty, and wisdom. Later he also became the god of the sun and light.
Apollo has brought a different love into our home. First I have seizures due to me having MS So he will be a great service dog for me And kids have gone through Anxiety since BD So I know Apollo is helping them with Anxiety.
Wish I could post pictures.
D10 hasn't slept since bd difficulty sleeping I have tried everything from lavender oil, to meditation And relaxing before going to bed nothing.
The 2nd night Apollo jump in d10 bed I finally heard snoring D10 asleep in a deep sleep. I seen Apollo slowly jump out the bed Walks over to boys bed sniff them in hand and face walks out the Room and then lays next to my bed and falls asleep.
I was telling my mom the story my mom smiled and said You know he basically is doing his job he made sure all kids where A sleep then came to your room to make sure you where ok So his job was done. I started crying
I can see the kids more relax. D10 tells me am better now that Apollo is here.
My mom sent me a message and said do me a favor Spell God backwards have a good night I love you.
I was shock so I did exactly what mom said,
God, is Dog
My mom then called me next day and said I told you God is good all the time
God is letting you know am here with you.
I am still in shock about how amazing Apollo is
Apollo birthday is December 27th he just turned 1yrs He weights 78lbs I believe he is a king German shepherd He is a big boy. But a big teddy bear.
Thank you again everyone. Coming here to vent helps me so much.
DnJ yeah your right I will never know MLCers head. Is just mind blowing W so selfish while kids still hurt.
At BD Lesbian marriage Me39,W36 S9,D9,S8 adopted all three Together almost 10yrs Bomb Drop - April 2017 W movedout - May,2017 OW June,2017 Currently 2018 Me40, W38 S10,D10,S9
Wow, how wonderful. I have always believed things happen for a reason and it sounds very much like your guardian angel sent Apollo to you at the time your trios needed him the most.
