I think I may have had my answer to my previous post:
Background: Last night, around 10:45 or so, OS wakes up and goes to be with W. W asks him if he had a bad dream or anything. OS told her that he just wanted to be with her.
What I think this is about is that W has started back at work (started back on Wednesday, this happened Thursday night).
W came over to me not that long ago tonight and told me that she is worried about OS. Normally, if he wakes up at night, it’s to go to the bathroom, bad dream, hungry, etc. That that happening was unusual.
What W then said is that she believes OS is picking up on the fact that the relationship she and I have right now “isn’t very good.”
So, she wants to have the R talk. But, she doesn’t want to blindside me about anything, so she asked me when I would want to do that. I told her I would need some time to think about it.
Naturally, my heart jumped into my my throat as she talked about that. Great.
She doesn’t want to do this while the kids are around—so we either do that late at night (while they are sleeping), or her mom comes over and watches them while we go to Panera ‘for like an hour or so.’
Probably gonna get my a** handed to me, I’m afraid.
What’s odd is that after we talked about that, she talked about work stuff, government shutdown, that her dad can help us out if need be (to a certain extent) while the shutdown is going on, and talked about her hopes to come back to SoCal after her training in the fall, and we talked about emergency contacts for the babysitter, and all that.
It’s just so maddening. She wants to have the R talk, but then talks about normal everyday topics like it’s nothing.
Before she left for the night, she asked me to think about when I would like to do that. It will probably end up happening in the next week or so, I’d imagine.
