She is probably doing both manipulation and feeling worried. It never seems like it is just one thing. I must have missed it, did the texts have to do with D4 or finances? If so why did you not respond. If not why are you feeling bad. Don't stand for name calling and vulgarity. Set the boundary. My W is getting it figured out fast that when she does this I hang up, walk away, or ask her to leave depending on the sitch.
TF, I sense that it's both. She "accepted" my new method of communication. One text she sent me was a list things I need to pack for D4. I did not respond. Felt like I did not need to. She felt otherwise and that I need to acknowledge that I got the message. Fair enough. I told her I will do a better job at responding to things pertaining to D4. She calls and gets upset when I don't respond because apparently she had an important message for me regarding D4 and I did not have the courtesy to follow up. I told her I would do a better job of responding to calls I don't answer (at my own time, of course).
I really want to bust this possible D. But it feels like I'm just pushing it faster in that direction.
ST, I have not used the word A in our conversations. She feels like the R with OM is genuine and will vigorously defend it. If I counter, all it would do is cause an unnecessary fight. And that is something I just don't have the energy for.
