Dealing with a WW Pt3

[SoTorn]

Oh and as far as I know she only has one OM. From what I gather she is "in love" with OM, this man who is 20 years her senior. I don't think she has tried to date anyone local. I have the ability to see where she is at all times while in town and "when" I was watching, there was nothing unusual and she was where she said she would be. I have stopped snooping at this time because she is in an active A until she proves otherwise.

WW messaged me this morning about the ski trip saying it was a clusterf**k and that they didnt get to ski that long and it was very expensive but the kids had a good time. I did respond because its about the kids and just said "Glad the kids had fun".

My D19 messaged me and said that WW went up there with them and didn't ski. I guess WW had bought some ski pants that didn't fit her and didn't remember to take her boots so she sat in the lodge by herself the whole time by herself. D19 said they saw her often because the lodge is at the bottom of the hill and WW was just in there by herself. I find that kind of odd. WW took the kids on a ski trip but didnt do anything with them when she was there?

WW was definitely in a bad mood when she got home after the ski trip. In the past when we did family trips I would obviously help quite a bit and I could tell that me not being there made it extremely difficult for her. Oh well. I wouldn't have gone anyway.

I will keep on this same heading. These are the guidelines I am following

Don't get baited into a fight
Don't argue
Don't be mean, condescending or hateful to WW or anyone for that matter
Don't compliment WW
Don't offer assistance to WW
Don't have any deep conversation with WW unless its about finances or kids
Don't text WW
Don't call WW
Don't email WW
Don't respond to or answer calls from WW unless its urgent about children or finances
Don't talk to the children about my MR or WW
Don't talk to WW about R or MR
Be scarce when WW is home
GAL like a madman
Continue the 180 while focusing on the anger portion (soften my words)
Don't make myself readily available to WW
Expand my social circle by meeting new men and women
Always dress sharp
Always have a goal list each day
Always be upbeat and happy around the kids and WW
Respond to WW when she talks to me at home with an upbeat tone but very short responses
Do not initiate any conversation with WW unless I need to ask about the kids or finances
If WW compliments me say "Thank you"
If WW does something for the kids or myself say "Thank you"
Validate Validate Validate

Also, what I meant about being with the kids 100% of the time was that I still live with them and we arent doing the 50% custody thing. I didn't literally mean be with them 100% of the time.

When WW is home I leave them at home in hopes she will interact with them and build her relationship up with them.

When I initially got on this forum my goal was to try and save my MR. My goal has shifted to save myself. My overall goal is to completely detach myself emotionally from my WW so that I no longer have any fears or doubts about myself and about moving on. I can honestly say that I am doing much better emotionally. Especially now that I have been getting attention from other women and making new friends. I havent pursued anyone romantically, but I have been getting a steady stream of attention and compliments from a lot of other women.

I know that I am a good looking man. I have a great job, I make really good money. I am financially stable. I have a good retirement savings. I have a bad a$$ car lol. My credit score is 840, etc. I don't drink, I don't do drugs, I smoke cigars once in a while :-). I know I am a man only a fool would leave. I know there are plenty of other strong and hard working women out there that would appreciate a man like myself.

Thank you all for your help. This forum is invaluable. Sandi, you rock.