A familiar story with questions EIGHT

[RR17]

Sandi, I reread your last entry and believe there was a misunderstanding.

The second suggestion I have is to stick to one subject when you have these types of interaction. In other words, don't bring up the subject of sex, when you've been discussing something else. I think it's best to have a shorter conversation about one topic at a time, rather than going into several additional subjects. Make sense?

During our last R talk, I stopped short of saying that I don't want to remain in a sexless marriage. Meaning I didn't bring it up.

That said and I'm sure I will get jumped on for this but I'm bringing it here first. I am contemplating bringing it up early in the new year.
Thoughts are that it has been long enough and something is telling me that not bringing it up is more bata capitulation that just needs to stop. Time to put a foot down. It has been nearly 7 months and much good has come from the break, but enough is enough.
As for the good?
Well, for me it has stopped the ineffective pattern of temp-taking with sex. The idea that If she is sleeping with me then things are good.
For her? Well during tumultuous times W had stated several times that "All I wanted her for was sex" meaning that I really didn't like her for much else. During this break, not just from the sex but from any pressure to have it, I believe that I have proven that I do in fact like her for other reasons.

What I would appreciate is some feedback on the most constructive approach.
Thoughts on the pros and cons of saying anything.

Thanks as always.