I remember having similar conversations. We were always building building building, and at some point we kinda hit pause on the two of us until things calmed down with work and the kids. It only took a year of hitting pause before it all went to [censored]. I mean we finally had everything we dreamed about at the beginning... we were both making good money. Kids were going to college within a few years. We had the big house with the pool and the awesome yard. Our FB pics were awesome. We had two brand new vehicles. Fur babies were happy. Blah blah blah blah bleh.
Then one day she decided to throw it all away. I felt like literal garbage, or worse. Like that nasty bit at the bottom of the dumpster that is caked on. I was tossed out in the trash but I was still there just soaking in mess. Oh, and it was all my fault, too. She cheated on ME because (fill in the blank). Didn’t matter what it was, it was my dang fault. “You made me do this” kind of crap. Ugh.
Anyhow. I think you should take the initiative. You need to be able to move on with your life. You are super smart, so you already know this. But you can’t hold out for him. You have a chance to make your life exactly the way you want it now.
Will you be lonely? Yeah.
But you know what? You are going to find the right person for you. Don’t go out and find a rebound just because you’re lonely. Honestly, I suggest not dating for a while. It took me about one month of healing per year of my marriage before I could even smile again without forcing it. I did not date anyone during this timeframe. It would have been bad for everyone involved.
And when you are ready to date other men? BE PICKY. You don’t have to settle for anything less than what you deserve.
Save yourself. Nobody is coming! BD:11/2017 Filed:12/2017 Final: 2/2018
