Thank you for your lovely comments. Surprisingly, he got back to me very quickly. He made a sort of proposal that wasn't too far off the one that has been on the table all of this time. Despite having previously told me that he was off, when I gave him a chance to come over and make the changes together so that we could reach agreement on all terms and get sign-off by year end, he claimed to be too busy to do it. I told him that by doing it then he could save significantly on his taxes moving forward, and rather than biting, he disappeared once again. It was probably too much for him and felt like it was moving too fast, even though it took more than two years to get there. I heard nothing further from him.
I had to contact him today because of an unexpected purchase that I have to make and doing so without his consent would violate our financial restraining order. He actually responded to me relatively quickly and was very pleasant and agreeable. Of course no mention of resolving the divorce.
I guess that is the beauty of having no expectations. I'm not taking this stuff personally anymore. I'm just happy to be having a lovely holiday with my kids. I hope all of you are finding those moments to remember in what can sometimes be a difficult time of year. I feel like the kid in the room full of manure, there has to be a pony in there somewhere, and I think 2019 will be my time to find it.