Your point about our contributions to the breakdown being understood is really important because it's easy to sound and feel like we were abandoned and our spouses were these horrible crazy people but in many cases there were real problems that led to a breakdown. The thing is that those problems could have been fixed if your spouse wanted to work on them with you. Simply packing up and leaving isn't ever the right thing to do unless there's a safety issue. But it's good for us all to see what we did wrong since we'll hopefully have a second chance with someone new someday and we don't want to make the same mistake.
