My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance PART 5

[SoTorn]

I got caught up on your sitch. Your WW is all over the damn place lol. With mine, the OM is in another state and is easy access when WW travels. I honestly feel that she is ok with that right now. WW hasnt even hinted on R with me. WW was doing the crazy calling, texting a few times, but once I stopped responding to her and answering her calls she stopped. I was getting those temp checks last week of "You never talk to me, you never respond to me". My WW is very stubborn and honestly I think she is borderline bi-polar.

Same here. Lots of sniffing when I first went to very little contact to no-contact. Then...stopped. In my experience, WW has asked why I'm ignoring her, being cold to her, etc. Expect more of these and increase in desperation for them to elicit a response. See my thread for an example of what was pulled on me two days ago.

Unfortunately, I feel that even if I DB perfectly, my WW will never pursue me and try to R. Therefore, I am just DBing to protect my emotions and ready myself for the D and me moving on completely. I am getting there. Its a rough road.

Nothing is guaranteed and you know that already. All you can do is control yourself and prepare yourself how to handle whatever WW throws your way. Just like ovr did. His delivery to WW was perfect. It was firm, powerful, and earnest. If WW came to you all of a sudden would you be able to respond the same way? I'd venture to say no. I know I cannot yet.

It is a rough road, but you have company.

Honestly I got a temp check text from WW a couple of weeks ago saying "What do you want me to do? What do you want?". I said "I already explained to you what I wanted and your actions continued to show disrespect. Your actions speak louder than your words, so as of now, your words mean jack"

I got an "ok" response to that.

I have no expectations that my WW will come back and say she wants to work on us. As of now she is too far gone into the A and her la la fantasy grass is greener land. I honestly feel that it would take me leaving and filing for D to elicit any sort of reaction from her, but at that point it wouldnt be to elicit a reaction, it would be for me to cut ties and move forward.

I am getting really comfortable being a "single" man. I look way better than I have in a long time. I changed my FB status to single and I have had no less than five women start talking me up. As of now I set a boundary with the women that reach out to me propositioning a date that I am open to meeting new people and happy to make new friends but as of now my goal is friends, but that could change in the future.