But my point is, don't you think in a normal marriage at least a majority of the above points are true to some extent?
Well, I suppose. I also believe whenever a person marries someone from a different culture, religion, social or financial status...…..it can bring added stress to the MR. Almost everything adds stress to a MR. Even when the two people have similar backgrounds, there is going to be some differences in how they view things. It's up to the couple to figure out (or get help) in how to make it work in spite of all their differences. Learning how to adjust to our circumstances and working together is a big deal. Not cooperating and expecting the other spouse to do all the changing does not work well at all.
Sandi2,
I will first state that I'm not in a optimistic state but also not a total pessimistic state. I believe that a lot of what I've learned in DB is really important and WHAT I WOULDN'T do to know this information a year ago. My question to you since you seem to have a better understanding of everything relationship related. How often does DB work in getting your partner back? I see and have experience a lot of positive come from GAL. Like I said, maybe because I am a state where I am realizing that my WAW and myself will not end up together I sound negative. I just want to make it clear that I have gotten a lot of positive from reading the book, getting coaching, and interacting with people in similar situations. But I will not reach my main goal which was to get my partner back and I wonder how more often it happens that people implementing DB reach the goal of getting their partners back? I read through the threads and it just doesn't seem to be often. And as much as that [censored] I know a lot of positive comes from DB.
