All of the "not to" reasons seem fear-based to me TJT. Honestly...if you file, you will know pretty quick what the means to him. It seems to me there are many more reasons to file than not. I know what you are going through. I have a lawyer appointment in the new year to send a counter proposal to my H's separation agreement (also correct some pretty blatant misinformation). It is not what I want but I also know it is what I need to do to protect myself. Like others have said...it is just a piece of paper and has nothing to do with whether or not you can R in the future. For you, it may also be a necessary step towards dropping the rope.
Also... as others have said... and you did not list this reason but you are YOUNG!!! I met my H when I was 37 which is seven years older than you are now!!! I wish I had known then what I know now as there were warning signs I should have paid attention to (like he cheated on his first wife twice...once when they were engaged and once when they were married) but I was in love and naïve and I thought that love conquers all. You are way ahead of me in that department and I think will be much smarter when you choose your next/last partner. It WILL happen TJT. Trust in that!!! Drop the rope. Your H does not deserve you. (((TJT)))
