You aren't separated yet. By assuming that you are going to separate, you are believing what she says. Don't believe anything she says. You are bringing life to this story.
If I'm reading you correctly, you want to separate, but it seems like only because she does. If you are dead set on separating, why are you waiting? I wonder the same thing about your W. I don't (and your W won't) believe that you are separating on your terms, and not hers, if you are waiting to separate now.
But, you're in a tough spot where you are, rightfully, trying to stop the cake eating. Her wanting to phase you out while still enjoying the family life is tough.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
