MLC husband

[peacetoday]

mine were 5 and 11 at time of move out

I would tell them closer to the actual date as KML said

I cant remember exactly the way we did it
but I think they realized something was wrong while he was still there
I think honesty is best- they know the truth anyway
No blame
But the truth
Your dad has decided to move out but we both love you very much
we cant protect them
But they will know you are there
you are not leaving ect….

Me being there and taking on rolls of both parents was helpful
my kids are both doing well
they are 17 and 23 now
good students drug free and good people-
no contact with dad for 9-10 years
no contact was a blessing for us
none
they don't ask about him anymore
For my situation- especially after xh went dark with no visits
I told them he loves them but he is in MLC
I told them the truth
If he gets better he will visit again
they seemed to understand


In some ways it was a huge relief to not see him everyday with his crazy shut down -not talking to me behavior