See Did, you both have the same exactly unhealthy dynamic. You want her when you can't have her, and she wants you when she can't have you and makes sure you are on the hook. She becomes more attractive and you become full of love when she backs off. Your dynamic needs to be worked on, but yours individually.
You are both quite young. It's a confusing time in your life with a 4 year old child. You would take so much benefit from IC learning how to be very individual without your moods being dependant on what she is going to do next or what she is doing currently. How to increase the value in yourself as a father and an individual.
My bomb came when I was 27 with a newborn. EEEKKKK! The gift I take from this, especially with not having another R for a while after that was becoming ME. Learning how to be responsible for my own happiness and emotions. It's a gift I would never trade in.
