Uncertain of What I Have (Thread 3)

[TJT]

I trust her and am not going to blow up the marriage over it.

I'm glad you said this. I'm learning more and more that as much as people keep saying "there were probably signs", it is our JOB as spouses to trust the other person, because why shouldn't we?

And I know that for DB’ing, I shouldn’t—I shouldn’t care because I know I’m a total prize and will make myself a prize that if she can’t see it, someone else in time will.

*Applause* I love it when people talk like this. I believe the same for myself but simultaneously doubt that someone else (who's worth it anyway) will see it.

Also, I CANNOT believe she said she wished she loved you enough to want to take care of you!! That's totally preposterous. Like, wow.

I'm in the opposite sitch - my H had back surgery, was out of work for a while on disability, and then HE still left me. These people just don't make sense and it's very hard not to get discouraged about the world or at least very, very concerned about the complexity and seriousness of mental health issues that are out there.

Someone is seriously gonna have to come FIND me because I'm just gonna be here in a safe little cave with my anxiety blanket, my dog, and lots of pizza rolls and ice cream....