Thanks all. JJ, it's not really as though I'm doing H's things for him - it's just more the knowledge that I'm the rock here, and he's the fragile one. And I think it just really freaked me out seeing that glimpse of that angry old guy he used to be. I'm afraid I wouldn't be as tolerant a second time around, even though I now know the source of that behavior is his depression - I'm just SO unwilling to go back to that place!
He's been sweet as pie to me all the rest of the week, though, so something I said must have sunk in.
Meanwhile, D is continuing with those baby steps. She's gone surfing with my H several times in the past 2 weeks - that's a big step, because for a long time her delusional self-image kept her from surfing because she thought she "looked fat". She's been going to two classes a day and tomorrow starts 4 classes a day - with mom in tow, but she seems to be okay with that. Only a month left of school. I think her new, higher dose of Prozac is really starting to kick in (bulimia and OCD require much higher doses than depression,and it takes a while to work up to those higher doses).
