LBS dealing with WW (part 6)

[Joe2017]

I can't recall, was your wife in a suspected MLC? Does this impact your thoughts on her actions?

Not to excuse them, but to see her whole cheating as part of something she was going through. A symptom of her greater issues. Do you think it was wildly out of character for her up until that point in time?

If you do think MLC, do any of her other symptoms seem to still be around, or have they changed too? How she dresses, anger, depression....

I totally get where you’re coming from. No, all of her symptoms came on like a mental illness. Much like a MLC but it was not an MLC. It was waywarding and being manipulated by OM. It was always very clear to me, and also became clear to her a few months ago. When the fog was lifted and she realized what happened to her, she couldn’t believe it. And what’s more, is that she could not believe that she DID IT TO HERSELF. She fully realizes that her current problems are all her own doing. Yes she was manipulated, but she was also complicit.

So she is MOSTLY back to being what I remember as my wife. She dresses normal, talks normal, jokes normal, deals with her problems actually better than she used to. We are much more open and she actually considers what I tell her much more than she did even when we were in the best years of our MR. She did get extremely dressed up for a date we went on, but it was a really nice gesture because of our history and how I used to get upset that I felt like she did not try to look her best on our dates... Yet as soon as she started being WW, she would dress like she was hitting the club every night. Now I can see her trying to be “fancy” for me. It’s something that we lacked in our MR and it’s nice.

I actually believe she is trying. I’m having moments of weakness that I will only admit here to my friends on the site. I just have to let go of my resentment. I never had a reason to before, and now that I do I’m working hard to overcome this problem. But it still exists.

"Do not let fear control me"

I’m trying! I think that I am not too far from a breakthrough. I typically move through this kinda stuff at a decent pace, but I will rollercoaster quite a bit before I settle in and put all of the pieces of the puzzle together. Thanks for the support!

We will get into see a C as soon as we can.