Quote: but DANG am I tired of being the one who has it together all the time!!!!! When do I get to have MY breakdown, I wonder???
Can I vent right along with you?! Thang is if I'd ever hint at that, she would bolt. She can't deal with anyone else's show of weakness at all. On occasion, D10 will experience a panic attack. She recognizes what it is and just wants some company to help get her thru it. All that is usually needed in a little back rub or an embrace. If she approaches her Mom, CAW will physically cower in the fetal position and usually sets off a panic attack of her own.
It sure is tough to avoid those silly tiffs. I've had to learn to let so much go, otherwise it such a waste of energy. Have you had much luck with H heeding your advise about his depression? Many of my suggestion end up falling on "deaf ears", but I don't know of any other way to help CAW see the alternatives.
I guess I just wanted to let you know your sentiments are shared about dealing with a depressed spouse.
Ellie I pray that your family will overcome these tribulations and regain the contentment they and you ought to have.
Thang is if I'd ever hint at that, she would bolt. She can't deal with anyone else's show of weakness at all. On occasion, D10 will experience a panic attack. She recognizes what it is and just wants some company to help get her thru it. All that is usually needed in a little back rub or an embrace. If she approaches her Mom, CAW will physically cower in the fetal position and usually sets off a panic attack of her own. 
